Raised Your Skirt and Opened Your Knees

If you watch “Scandal,” you’d agree with me that the season premiere last night was amazing. Not wanting to spoil it, for those of you who haven’t seen it yet, I won’t say much. However, there is one line I would like to focus on for a bit – “You raised your skirt and opened your knees for a man in power” – said to Olivia by her dad, as he chastised her about her relationship with Fitz.

It’s a harsh statement, yes I know. But let’s look at it for minute. How often do people make themselves vulnerable in this way? Not only sexually, but physically, emotionally and mentally as well. Many young girls and older women have not been taught to value themselves and the value of their self, so they casually offer their bodies to anyone who whispers softly in their ears. This is no way takes men off the hook, who also need to understand the value of their bodies, and not sow their seeds like a farmer with 400 acres out in Montana. There is still respect in modesty.

And modesty is not only in reference to sexuality, as there are many who may not raise their “skirts” physically, but do so verbally or emotionally. Allowing too many individuals into the private spaces of the lives, who cause havoc and unnecessary worry. Not everything needs to be placed on the cover of “My Life Weekly.” It’s ok to keep parts of your life private or only in your family. The more outsiders who know your business, the more ammo there is to use against you in time of war. I’m not suggesting that no one can keep a secret or be a confidant, but everyone can’t have the same status.

So as we go through this day and onward, let’s remember to keep our skirts down and knees closed. If it didn’t work for Olivia, it definitely won’t work in real life.